🔴 The danger of being too goal oriented ⚠️
A year ago, I started my fitness journey.
I was getting fat and sluggish and I badly needed to shape up.
My goal: Lose weight and get six-pack abs by end of 2020.
But for months, I would feel miserable.
Here’s the proof.
Why?
Because I was too fixated on my goal.
Huh?
“Eric, I thought it is good to be goal oriented?”
I thought so too but here’s the problem.
When you are too fixated on your goal (six-pack abs, MDRT or becoming famous), you are going to end up feeling miserable because every day you are reminded that you have not achieved your goal.
Eventually, you will stop feeling motivated and start feeling like a failure.
You may even be tempted to take shortcuts.
Freeze fats.
Mis-sell.
Buy followers.
Gasp.
But thank God for wise friends.
One of them texted me privately.
“Eric, instead of being so obsessed with your goal, why not fall in love with the process of getting there?
And instead of only celebrating when you get your six-pack abs, why not celebrate each time you perform a positive behaviour or act out on a positive habit?”
Mind-blown.
He is ABS-olutely right!
If I focus on celebrating my good behaviors (30 push ups every day) and my positive habits (drinking 2 liters of water every day), then I will be winning every day!
I will feel a sense of achievement and satisfaction all the time…
… which will unknowingly keep me on track in achieving my six-pack abs!
And this mindset doesn’t just apply to fitness goals.
It applies to ANY goals.
The key is NOT to focus on goals and outcomes, but to focus on behaviors and habits.
And celebrate each time you perform the behaviour or when you act out on a habit.
You will be happy every day and you will most definitely achieve your goals!
Your #1 fan,
Eric Feng
P.S. FYI, I haven’t achieve my six-pack abs yet.
But I am enjoying the process a lot more.
And unknowingly I am getting close to my goal. See my most recent video here.
So remember to focus on behaviors and habits more than goals and outcomes.
